Our Little Escape

I sold some items on eBay last week. I sold them with the intentions of buying wicker furniture for my front porch with the money I made. Then I changed my mind and bought one night's stay at a wonderful lodge in the mountains.

We stayed at this lodge nine years ago when we celebrated our two-year wedding anniversary. So when I booked the room last week, I requested the same suite we had before.

It was so nice to get away. Just the two of us. My parents graciously kept our three kiddos.

We had an exquisite dinner and a wonderful breakfast this morning at the lodge's lovely, rustic restaurant. The lodge itself is so cozy and warm. Very comfy.

And the beds are heavenly. Huge king size beds, the ones you have to take a running jump to get up on. And the linens and pillows and duvet were down-filled. Everything was down=filled. It was the kind of bed that you just sunk down into. So warm and cozy.

The weather these last few days has been beautiful and warm so we were able to enjoy a nice long hike today before heading home.

We had such a wonderful time. We needed this time alone in a big way, and it was so nice to finally be able to talk and cuddle and completely enjoy one another.

Way better investment than porch furniture.

P.S. ~ Please come back on Wednesday! I have a great giveaway that I'm so excited to share with you!

Learning to say "yes" when the "no" comes easily...

It's so much easier to say no. Goodness knows that there is enough of everything else demanding my attention ~ schooling, the endless laundry, dirty dishes, dusty surfaces, floors that need scrubbed, etc., etc. But then that nagging guilt creeps its way into my mind. "One day you WILL regret having said no so many times. Guaranteed."

I know that day will come. I know it. The day when my children won't be begging me to play with them. The day when I find myself thinking back to all the missed opportunities just because I wasn't willing to put down what would always be there anyway and spend time with them.

And child's play doesn't require a whole day's worth of time. 10 minutes here. 20 minutes there. A story snuggled up on the couch together. Painting together at the kitchen table. A walk in the woods. Baking cookies or bread together.

Last week, I did something that I'm ashamed to admit I don't do often enough. I put the tasks down and picked up the opportunity.

A sun-setting walk through the forest with Ian. A time when I so wished I had brought my camera. Hand in hand we walked through the forest, examining the rings on tree stumps, identifying animal tracks, watching the sun go to sleep. I realized how much I really do not connect on a deep, personal level with my kids during the day-to-day business of life and schooling. It's in the raw, real-life, unscripted moments when the true connection comes.

An afternoon tea party with Lily. I almost said no. I was in the middle of dishes, and had more to check off of that obsessive to-do list. Oh, but I caught the words before they were verbalized. Thank goodness I did. "Sure honey, give me five minutes to finish the dishes and we'll have a tea party."

And we did. And I enjoyed it. And Lily was so happy. And that made me feel good, and it reaffirmed that I did the right thing. When is showing our kids our love for them not a good thing, after all?

And it's not about dropping all of our duties and errands and obligations to play with our children all day. But it is about making sure we spend one-on-one time with them. And it even means that sometimes we need to accept the interruption to our plans, our schedule, to spontaneously spend time with our children. I think that it's in those unplanned moments when they feel most loved and special because they see that we are willing to lay aside our work and our plans and our preferences to spend time doing something with them that they really enjoy.

And I type these words very humbly, because this is an area of mothering in which I struggle. I confess that it is much easier for me to say no, and I often do. But I want to be more attentive and responsive to the needs of my children, to show them that their mommy loves them so much that she's willing to lay down her to-do list for a little while to spend time with them.

Father, I will be the first to admit that I can't do this mothering role on my own. I need Your hand on me, guiding me, giving me wisdom and insight as I raise my children. Father, I pray that you would help me to lay my selfish desires and my demanding to-do list down at Your feet. I pray that those things of this earth would not hinder me from those things of Your kingdom, in particular, raising my children and making them feel completely and totally loved. I pray that I would parent my children as You parent me. Full with love, with time, and with grace. In Your Son's glorious and grace-filled name I pray, Amen.

What happened to the pink princess dresses?

This is what happens when the 3 and 4 year-olds raid the older brother's (cousin's) dress-up chest...

I'm only disappointed that you couldn't see their awesome lightsaber/power ranger moves.

Conquering the Hibernation Bug

The following pictures were taken on Monday. Monday was cold. At least by my standards. It was in the 40's, and if you know me well (which some of you do) you know how big of a sissy I am when it comes to cold weather. Just the thought of going outside when the temperature is below 50 degrees gives me the goose bumps. In fact, the only thing that keeps me from picking up and moving south is my family.

The kids and I went outside for a short walk. Just to get some fresh air. The sun was out, and I felt bad keeping the kids inside when it was so sunny (even though I dreaded going out into the cold.) We finished our walk, and I got a little spontaneous. I grabbed the rake from the shed and raked up a big pile of leaves. Then we played. For an hour. And I had fun. And I didn't even notice being cold.

I'm happy that I ignored my initial inclination to hibernate in the house all day. We had so much fun together. I laughed. The kids laughed. We had a great time.

I think I need to step out of my comfort zone a little bit more for the sake of fun. Now that I'm a "grown-up" I have a hard time letting loose and getting dirty. But getting dirty (and cold) can be quite fun.